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Maika Elan’s Real Love in Vietnam

I picked up the following from LGBT Icons, and the photos are absolutely stunning.

You can see the whole story on the New York Times, but Maika’s decision to publish this work is really interesting. She initially took the photos in Cambodia, but wasn’t sure that she really wanted to publish them. After returning to Hanoi though, she realized how hidden gay couples were in the Vietnamese media, specifically that when photos were taken, the faces were always hidden.

The colors and structure of these photos are amazing, but I think the real beauty is in the intimacy of each one.

This is one of my personal favorites:


NPR Snap Judgement Winner

A lot of people are talking about Noah St. John’s Snap Judgement performance (video below). He won NPR’s spoken word performance of the year and it is really awesome to watch.

I’m glad he’s getting a lot of attention, he definitely deserves it. But I think it’s unfair for this to be described as a performance about how he was raised by two moms, because it isn’t, at least not really. The fact is that he has two moms, but it’s about growing up, fearing the end of your parents’ relationship, and those ridiculous moments that make being a family so very important.

There are moments that speak to the awesomeness of being gay, but this one speaks to the awesomeness of family. It’s poetry.


Uruguay, You’re Awesome


This is the flag of Uruguay.

Why is the sun smiling? Well, because Uruguay’s House just passed marriage for all by a vote of 81-18.

That means only 18% of their Representatives dissented. 18-fucking-percent.

What the fuck ‘merica? Can you envision a day where marriage for all passes our House by 356 votes?

My God, can you imagine anything passing our House by 356 votes? Hell, I wonder if they even get 356 members to show up for any given vote.

Uruguay’s marriage bill now needs to pass the Senate, though given the support, it doesn’t appear defeat is in its future. So congrats to Uruguay for entering the twenty-first century, and if anyone knows of a nice villa down there, give me a call.

I’m pretty, smart and funny – a good addition to any country’s population.

Plus, my dog’s housebroken. Win-Win.

Christmas – A Season for Blamery

From Towleroad:

Bill O’Reilly agreed with Imus in the Morning producer Bernard McGuirk last night after he blamed abortion and gay rights for the so-called ‘war on Christmas’.

MCGUIRK: The war on Christmas is very, very real, and if you ask me, in addition to some grouchy misanthropic heathen atheists it has to do – at the root of it – with two things – abortion and the gay rights agenda, because Christianity is against those things. It’s subtle but that’s why it’s so pronounced in recent years.

O’REILLY: Hundred percent agree. I absolutely agree 100% that the diminishment of Christianity is the target and Christmas is the vehicle because the secularists know the opposition to their agenda (legalized drugs is in that as well) comes primarily from the Judeo-Christian traditionalist people.

Let’s run down a list of the things Christmas offers:
  • Decorating
  • Presents
  • Getting dressed up
  • Alcohol
  • Parties
  • Friends
  • Family
  • Loved ones
  • Unrepentant eating
  • Singing Carols

Let’s run down a list of why gay people might be against Christianity:

  • Bernard McKirk trying to use us as scapegoats
  • Bill O’Reilly spewing hate
  • Being treated as godless, baseless human beings by the loudest members of this subset of the population

I can see how McKirk and O’Reilly would get confused. The dementia’s set in.

Sunday Funday

It’s Sunday Funday, so I’ll leave you this image of a beautiful guy.

But not only is this image pleasing to the eye, it’s an important PSA.

Now that it’s December, remember to dress warmly (long johns) and drink plenty of water as the barometer drops.

Not your Grandpappy's long johns.

Not your Grandpappy’s long johns.

Yes, I know they’re not long johns, so shut the F* up. It’s Sunday, I need a drink and water’s just a mixer.

US HIV Infection Rates

Picked up from Joe.My.God

While the data is from 2010, it sad that they’re so high for a first world nation. We’re obviously not doing enough in certain demographics to either educated, provide assistance, or undo atmospheres of secrecy and shame.

Uganda: The Third Grader’s Government

For those not in the know, Uganda is in the midst of passing Anti-Homosexual legislation. The provision that’s getting the most attention involves the death penalty for the lavender set, but even without that, the bill is incredibly disturbing. Here’s a breakdown from Box Turtle Bulletin:

Clause By Clause With Uganda’s Anti-Homosexuality Bill:
Clauses 1 and 2:Anybody Can Be Gay Under the Law. The definition of what constitutes “homosexual act” is so broad that just about anyone can be convicted.
Clause 3: Anyone Can Be “Liable To Suffer Death”. And you don’t even have to be gay to be sent to the gallows.
Clause 4:Anyone Can “Attempt to Commit Homosexuality”. All you have to do is “attempt” to “touch” “any part of of the body” “with anything else” “through anything” in an act that does “not necessarily culminate in intercourse.”
Clauses 5, 6, 8, 9, and 10:How To Get Out Of Jail Free. The bill is written to openly encourage — and even pay — one partner to turn state’s evidence against another.
Clauses 7, 11, and 14:Straight People In The Crosshairs. Did you think they only wanted to jail gay people? They’re also targeting family members, doctors, lawyers, and even landlords.
Clause 12: Till Life Imprisonment Do You Part. And if you officiate a same-sex wedding, you’ll be imprisoned for up to three years. So much for religious freedom.
Clause 13:The Silencing of the Lambs. All advocacy — including suggesting that the law might be repealed — will land you in jail. With this clause, there will be no one left to defend anyone.
Clause 14:The Requirement Isn’t To Report Just Gay People To Police. It’s To Report Everyone. Look closely: the requirement is to report anyone who has violated any the bill’s clauses.
Clauses 16 and 17:The Extra-Territorially Long Arm of Ugandan Law. Think you’re safe if you leave the country? Think again.
Clause 18:We Don’t Need No Stinking Treaties. The bill not only violates several international treaties, it also turns the Ugandan constitution on its head.
Clauses 15 and 19: The Establishment Clauses For The Ugandan Inquisition. These clauses empower the Ethics and Integrity Minister to enforce all of the bill’s provisions. He’s already gotten a head start.

What does this remind you of?

Yep, that’s right! A third grader’s rules for freeze tag – an open ended set of rules that can be re-interpreted in anyway that benefits the cool kids and punishes the nerds, their friends, or anyone who you just feel like screwing with that afternoon.

There are things in the US that we need to work on to achieve equality for all, but it’s important to remember the circumstances human beings in other parts of the world are trapped in. So far the UN, the US, and plenty of other governments have told the Ugandan government to knock it the fuck off. But like petulant children on the playground they continue to move ahead.

Of course, I could be wrong, since we have esteemed Americans, supporters of  the right to life, supporting this law.

Tony Perkins, the man, the mystery, the prophet that makes us all look like schmucks.

Thanks to Towleroad for bringing this to my attention.

And now that I’ve done my public service for the day, I think I’ll have a margarita and not plan a trip to Kampala.

(Kampala is the capital of Uganda, dipshit. Seriously, what do you do all day? Watch re-runs of Two and Half Men?)

Ann Cootie Coulter Speaks, Masses Weep

I love this time of year, when there’s a holiday every week!

10/11 – National Coming Out Day

10/15 – National “Disown Your Son Day”

10/25 – National “Weenie Roast”

10/31 – Halloween!

I bet you thought I was going to insult Ann Coulter.

I don’t comment on Lizard People.

I find racism deplorable.

(check out GLAAD’s response to Ann at TowleRoad)

I Want that Squad for the Zombie Wars

Above are the results to the question “Should the U.S. Legalize Gay Marriage” which was part of a larger ESPN survey.

There’s a lot of information here, but I’ll just say the one thing all gay people are thinking: “The NHL? That bunch of sissies? We’ll never break out of the flamer closet with them as our support squad.”

I mean, these guys stand around in the sun all day, their games get called because of rain, the never fight or get hurt. Hell, there’s rarely ever contact in their sport.

Oh… wait.

Mike Seaver on a Cross

Oh, Mikey Seaver… where did you go?

Seriously though, I actually appreciate Cameron’s courage to speak his views. I don’t agree with them, but I do believe it’s important for people to speak out about their beliefs. Without this transparency, it’s impossible to discuss and debate ideas. (Please see Mitt Romney for more examples)

It also helps me, listening to those with opposing views, to understand why they believe what they do. Is it disgust? Is it hate? Or is it a belief that people can be converted and “made whole”? Without understanding why they believe what they believe, I have no anchor to ground my reaction. And you don’t want to see this b*tch Hulk out.


Cameron becomes a prissy, whiny, nipple-muncher once he starts talking about “blasphemy laws.” He speaks as if these laws are the reason for people firing back at him. While it’s not said, it’s almost as if he thinks there’s some sort of government push against him (I base this on his use of the word “laws”).

It’s called culture. It’s called a response from people who disagree. While I have no doubt that many of these people responded in ways that I would not agree with or support, this is not a result of him breaking some supposed blasphemy law. It’s about his views differing from his responders. It’s the discourse that our country was founded on.

And yes, even the Founding Fathers could be dickheads when it came to public discourse.

That’s the thing about free speech. Free speech doesn’t mean you can say anything you want without consequences. Free speech means the government can’t censor you. It doesn’t mean your fellow countrymen don’t have the right to tell you you’re being an ingrown pubic hair*. They do. And they should.

Because without balance, freedom means nothing.

*See what I did there? Practicing my creative swearing vis-a-vis Chris Kluwe.

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